(Circa 2019)
YOU DON'T DESERVE ANYTHING.
Speaking in terms of what we or others deserve is one of the biggest traps of the Ego.
The word by definition means - to have earned or to be given something because of the way you have behaved; to merit, be qualified for, or have a claim to (reward, assistance, punishment, etc.) because of actions, qualities, or situation... And let me tell you, our Ego LOVES to talk about what WE deserve, or what THEY deserve.
One of the traps of this conversation is the distorted way people are speaking of self-love and self-care by claiming what they deserve. Or, we judge the actions of others and speak on what they deserve. Parents do it.
Kids do it. Spouses do it. Moms do it. Dads do it.
Friends do it. We all do it. However.... You don't deserve anything.
Do your actions have results? Why, yes, they do. Do you "deserve" them? Only to the extent that you believe you are what you do. Believing that what you receive is what you deserve is simply a judgment. And, I know we live in a world where this belief is rooted and grounded in us collectively.
We focus on our habits in order to change our experience only to end up with results that don't last.
That, in and of itself, is enough to shift our thinking about who we are in relation to what we do. However, we still largely seem to be stuck in a very old idea about who and what we are.
In this new awareness of loving yourself, I often hear people proclaiming what they deserve. The real problem? It's an attempt to convince yourself (not the Real you, your egoic nature) of this love.
