The number of women (and men) who settle in their lives….on different levels…and excuse it, is staggering. When I was growing up, I remember my parents telling me that they wanted me to be happy, and then of course, they attempted to direct and control my life according to what made them happy (and what they thought might make me happy). I wasn’t taught to pursue happiness, which is a very different thing. So, instead, I pursued liberation because I thought that would make me happy. I wound up so entangled in anything BUT happiness it would play like a dark comedy.
Fast forward a couple of decades and now my pursuit is happiness. In pursuing my happiness, I upset my life as I knew it. Perhaps this is why so many settle, because the knowing of what truly makes most people happy would upend their current lives. And even more, perhaps many do not pursue the path of happiness because they don’t actually know what they want, they are just very clear on what the DON’T want.
The quickest path to unhappiness is:
People pleasing
Being hyper Independent
Losing yourself in your family, marriage, community, responsibilities, children, career, financial pursuits, etc
Martyring yourself
Driving yourself to overachieve
Shaming yourself
Blaming life, people, and circumstances
Victimizing yourself
Hiding/denying your creativity
And the list could go on because this path is well worn.
Happiness, is in fact, the road less traveled. You will have to deny your conditioning in order to truly pursue it. Happiness cannot come from the world around you, it must come from inside you, otherwise, it can be taken from you at any moment.
If your happiness up to this point has been based on condition and circumstance, do you really know happiness?
Let’s get into it.
