Curing the Condition of Settling for Less
Have you ever had your heart set on something?
A person.
A job.
A position in life.
A relationship “goal”.
A financial increase.
A career opportunity.
A LIFE opportunity.
Anything at all.
You thought about it every day. You prayed for it to come. You considered how it would be to have it, be it, express it. This “something” became your favorite day dream.
But while you were thinking on your ideal relationship, and the most beautiful human your eyes had ever seen, telling you that you were everything they had ever hoped for, you started getting attention from people you engage with at work or other social spaces. Random people started sending you private messages on social media. People were paying attention to you, and saying wonderful things about you, but the catch was….they weren’t your “type”, there was no real “mojo”, but they sure were giving you a BUNCH of attention. And then, it happened…you found yourself wondering if this person or that person were THE person you had been hoping for. You started to wonder if God was actually sending you a “sign”. So then you started trying to find all of the reasons it might be “the one”. And yes, the things you didn’t care for were obvious, but you tried to diminish them in your mind.
And then, you started to entertain some of the attention with the negotiating thoughts of….”maybe this is what is right for me?” I mean maybe, since I don’t know everything, this was what was “smarter” for me, then what I thought I wanted.
And let me tell you, I’ve heard every excuse in the book when people SETTLE for something that is almost, kinda like, what they said they wanted. They blame it on God…”God knows better than me.” They try to make it spiritual… “They were saying all of the things I asked for, and it happened on the 3rd at 3:33, so it must be a sign.” They try to quiet the voice inside telling them…this ISN’T it because they’ve become accustomed to disappointment, and filled their lives with half measures. Additionally, they can’t and don’t trust themselves because they say yes to things they don’t work, that never really work out, and are convinced it’s because they’re inner “chooser” is broken.